One of the biggest reasons we suffer from perfectionism and endless self-analyzing is because we worry about what other people think about us. But, if we become too concerned with pleasing other people with what we say, what we do and how we look... they will soon become our master. Because we can't have two masters, right? If we're spending all of our time looking inward at ourselves or outward at others around us, we aren't looking UP to where our worth really comes from. Galatians 1:10 says, "For am I now seeking the approval of man or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." Do you see that? If we are still trying to please man, we would not be servants of Christ. I don't know about you, but that was enough to shake me up! I hadn't realized that my obsession with pleasing others and appearing to be this "perfect" version of myself was actually blocking my relationship with God and keeping me from being who He created me to be. In 1 Corinthians 4:3, Paul tells us, "I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself." Now... that's like the ultimate goal, right? To not care at all if others judge us? But even if we can never get quite to THAT point, we can still make some changes so we are not so consumed by it on a daily basis.
First, we need to remember that we were each wonderfully and fearfully made by the Creator of the Universe, so our worth comes from ABOVE. Then, in those moments when we are struggling with worrying about others' opinions, we can take the control back by capturing those thoughts and making them obedient to Christ by speaking truth over them. Truths like Proverbs 29:25 - "It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe." Or Psalm 118:8 - "It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man." Finally and perhaps most importantly, we need to be intentional about redirecting our focus back to God. Don't allow those thoughts to run rampant in your mind. Turn away from them and look back toward the radiant love of God.
Remember, we already have worth and are loved by the Almighty God Himself so we have nothing to fear!
I hope that you find these tools helpful as you go into your day today. And please come out to the I Am Enough Women's Conference for more encouragement and inspiration...